I've had a relationship with energetic therapies since my early 20s, I went when I had a back problem, but also knee problems, oh, and neck problems. In fact the Osteopath wondered how I could walk, and the trauma in my body really went back to birth!
Now zoom forwards 25 years or so, I've been a Shiatsu Practitioner now for 10 years and understand how powerful it can be to help in health related issues, but I'd never thought about the Menopause. But that's just it, isn't it? No-one really knows about the Menopause and there aren't really many people out there that can help you, and you're left struggling with bizarre symptoms, not really anyone to talk to, but you might pop on a Facebook group and have a supportive moan with some other women in a similar position. But really that doesn't help, its just a pressure release when it gets really tough.
At 46 and 12 days old, I have never given the Menopause a fleeting thought I'm sorry to say, especially if you're reading this and suffering from symptoms at a younger age. Though I'll say now, I've helped women as young as 40, so please know there is hope!
"I've helped women as young as 40, so please know there is hope!"
So at 46 and 12 days I went to a Networking event and the speaker, Lauren Chiren (Women of a Certain Stage) was going to talk about the Menopause. I happened to talk to her before she started and said 'I'm going to sale through the Menopause', she said 'Good for you' and then I heard her talk....
She had really suffered, and had to give up a high powered job in banking as the anxiety she was experiencing had been debilitating. I felt awful that I had been so flippant prior to her talk.
I left that day, still not thinking I was Menopausal but she had told us to look at a website called 34 Symptoms.com, so out of curiosity I did; and I ticked 25 boxes!
Over the coming months I pieced together that maybe this is why I'd got so fed up in my old computers job and left, I felt exhausted, got more and more anxious and burst in to tears out in Bulgaria, calling my mum to come and collect me (it was 5am UK time - oops!)
This wasn't the behaviour of a 42 year old Computer Consultant, but at the time I just put it down to unbelievable stress.
"...all around me women were appearing with symptoms,
I'd suddenly opened up a new world"
In late 2017, once I pieced this together, all around me women were appearing with symptoms, I'd suddenly opened up a new world. I didn't think you could have this young, I genuinely thought it was something that happened 'in your 60s', so I was shocked to think I was now bordering on the Menopause and that the average age in the UK is 51!
No one around me had ever said the 'M' word, and now here it was, everywhere; it just really shows that women don't talk about it until they know they are in a very safe environment to mention it.
I'm a curious person by nature, a researcher and a problem solver. So I decided to try and solve the problem of the menopausal symptoms. I thought, there are so many conflicting symptoms here, there must be a pattern. Chinese Medicine teaches you that there is always a pattern - you just have to find it.
The other issue was, I had no heat symptoms. Here I was heavily Peri, maybe even bordering on the main change and I didn't have heat symptoms. Was there such a thing as a cold menopause?
Then I realised symptoms grouped, the PeriMenopause is cold based and related symptoms like Fatigue, Foggy Brain, Overwhelm, Low Moods and Anxiety - not a Hot Flush in sight. This made sense, as women were going to their GPs and being told they weren't Menopausal as they didn't have Hot Flushes. More so, and this made me extremely angry, women were being told they were probably depressed and being offered unnecessary anti-depressants. This was when I realised I needed to be more vocal.
"women were being told they were probably depressed
and being offered unnecessary anti-depressants."
18 months on, and a few menopause seminars under my belt, and success stories from the first ladies that I'd taken through my 'Menopause - Road Back to Health' treatment plan I realised I could really step out in the world and tell women that I could help them.
THAT WAS 3 YEARS AGO
So, now its about you, and how I can help you. Over the last couple of years I've expanded to helping women via online consultations. Covid played a big part in expanding this, and you can resolve your symptoms successfully by understanding what is going on, and why your body needs certain supplements to get you back on track for your health , your menopause and your life beyond.
I still do in the room treatments for those that are local to Cheltenham, Gloucestershire, but I now support women around the UK, in Europe and the US and beyond.
The first step to alleviating your symptoms is to take back control, and feel empowered, you can do this with knowledge, and you can do this by talking to me.
"The years of the menopausal change are more
hormonally disruptive than being pregnant"
One of my main points that I close my Menopause talks with is about your Mindset - The years of change are more hormonally disruptive than being pregnant. If you've had children then you'll know how many changes you made to take care of yourself during this time, so now, you need to treat yourself just as compassionately, and this means rest, sleep, this is a time to 'Pause' for your transition.
I'm passionate about helping you have the very best time through your menopause change and into a health and happy future, and it can start today, with a clarity call with me.